Break FREE, life, fear

Our Biggest Fears

Breaking Free

How to Push Yourself Out of your Comfort Zone

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.”


Break FREE

Have things happened in life that have brought you down so far you feel like there is no hope. Have you been through a break-up, divorce, or currently going through a separation? Have you had difficulties at work lately, or even worse having trouble figuring out the direction of your career? Life is full of challenges that can at times bring someone to their knees! Sometimes the challenges that we each face can become so overwhelming we end up succumbing to our biggest fears! Fear of rejection, fear of failing, fear of not being good enough, fear of being alone and so on… Sometimes being afraid is something that makes us feelmore comfortable because then we don’t have to try! Or put simply, we stay in our comfort zones.

“Every time we choose safety, we reinforce fear.”

~Cheri Huber

Our Biggest Fears

Fear is not something you can overcome if you don’t first understand it. But to understand what you’re afraid of you have to at least acknowledge it before you are clear. Our biggest fears are created by our thoughts. What we think… is. Or put simply, fear is relative it does not materialize by itself. The only way to know what your biggest fears are is to understand the nature of those fears. Fears can be as simple as forgetting to turn off the coffee pot and as complex as the fear of failure. Fears that result from an attachment to something or someone can cause stress, and anxiety when separated because that person believes they need that something or someone to feel safe and secure and/or happy. Nobody wants to be afraid of something or someone; fear is an uncomfortable emotion. Fearinterferes with our ability to be clear in our thinking, it can cause us to feel nervous, anxious, stressed, and can make us feel shaky.

Life and Fear

Fear is built into our DNA; it helps us to avoid real danger (like falling) not perceived danger (like fear of rejection). Perceived danger like fear of failure comes from deep within, like low selfesteem that is triggered by some sort of external event. The fear of failure when triggered can make someone feel like they are incapable of doing something or achieving something and because of that people with this fear don’t even try. Perceived danger like being abandoned can make someone stay with a person that is not good for him or her. The fear of abandonment is also triggered by an external event. The fear of abandonment when triggered by words someone speaks or actions someone takes can make you a person feel disconnection or isolated because what is triggered within them is either rejection or worse being abandoned. The issue with each type of fear is they hold you back from living your life fully.

“To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.”

~Bertrand Russell


How to Push Yourself Out of your Comfort Zone

Leaving your comfort zone means learning to let go of bad habits, old habits, people who don’t have your best interests in mind, ideas you once had, and so on. This task is not easy for anyone no matter how many resources they have because it means letting go of the past, and all of the attitudes preconceived notions, emotions, friends, things, and any baggage that holds you back in life. Letting go is not easy! Letting go to some might entail leaving a long-standing marriage, or relationship that isn’t working for whatever reason. The problem is… most individuals will end up choosing to stay in their comfort zone and will make excuse after excuse as to why they cannot make a change.

Letting go is a somewhat scary process… choosing to leaving someone will be painful which is normal when people separate… making the decision to leave your corporate position to start your own business is frightening because you never know what to expect. As scary as letting go is, leaving your comfort zone is the only way you can grow and the only way you can start to achieve the things you want out of life. If you want something different you have to dream and if you want your dreams to come true you have to take action!

With this SAGE advice in mind, we offer you some tips to help you get started… moving out of your comfort zone

How to Move out of YOUR Comfort Zone:

  • Change Your Thoughts: one of the most important aspects of getting out of your comfort zone is remembering that your thoughts drive your actions and emotions. Challenge your negative thoughts with more reality-based positive thoughts.

  • Move through ALL FEARS with Action: use your fears to fuel inspiration, use your fears to challenge yourself to new heights! The best cure for fear is ACTION!

  • Imagine Yourself Reaching the Next Level of Success: when you can engage as many sense as possible the brain can create new neural pathways. What kinds of sights, smells, tastes, and feelings would you be experiencing at your next level of success… imagine what you are feeling hold onto the senses and let them help you take action.

  • You Don’t Know Unless you Try: and if at first you don’t succeed then try and try again! Some of the most successful people have failed miserably! But that never stopped them!!!! What’s the worst that can happen? You gain more insight and awareness… that’s not a bad thing!

  • TAKE RISKS: take as many as possible, because at some point you will finally see that impossible is only impossible because you say it is.

  • Be Comfortable With the Unknown: what is unknown can be exciting if you allow it to be. You never know what is going to happen next… allow yourself to feel the anticipation, it will make your heart flutter, and can help you rediscover what the feeling of excitement truly feels like! Bring that back into your life you deserve it!

“Results begin at the end of your comfort zone.”


Alison Strate